Posted by: Admin | October 16, 2010

Look in the mirror and SMILE

Can somebody tell me why some women are so afraid of looking their age that they’ve resorted to injecting poison into their foreheads and filler into their smile lines? “Can you do something about my wrinkles?” is usually the first thing most women over 40 say to me when I arrive to take their photograph – closely followed by asking me not to make them “look fat” or “as if they’ve got a double chin”.

Well, I’m going to say the unsayable here: if you look as if you have a double chin or are carrying 28 pounds of excess weight, it’s probably because YOU ARE! There isn’t some malicious genie in my camera that makes you look that way! However – and here’s the important bit – you look ok just as you are. A few wrinkles and jiggly bits do not detract from your general loveliness. For there IS a genie in my camera that shows me just how beautiful you are. If only you could see it yourself.

Of course, I do airbrush out temporary blemishes and generally tidy you up. But I leave most of the wrinkles intact because, you know what? Without them you just wouldn’t look like you. Take a look at the photo of me below. It was taken by my 4 year old grandson on my iPhone. The one I’ve airbrushed is clearly closer to the conventional idea of how I should aspire to look. But which face would my grandson prefer to see smiling at him? The fantastic plastic or the one that actually moves? Let’s all get real, ladies, stop putting ourselves under so much pressure and relax. There’s got to be more to life than worrying about which way our faces crinkle when we laugh.


me, wrinkles and all



the best me I can be?



  1. I think this post correlates nicely with the one about not appearing in front of the camera at all. We have become so brainwashed with the cult of youth that we forget to venerate experience and the potential power that goes with it.

    I think another stumbing block is that we tend to associate the happiest, most carefree times of our lives with youth and beauty and our perceived immortality at that time. When we are 45, tired, stressed and overweight, that’s not an image with which we associate ourselves.

    I saw Marie Osmond on the tv the other night, who, at 50, looks absolutely astonishing. I, too, would look astonishing if I had unlimited time and resources and access to hairdressers, beauty therapists, styalists etc. We look at these people and draw unfavourable comparisons and this is why the long hand of the media is so damaging. In the real world, in our real bodies and skins, our experience is writ large and sometimes it’s not the fairy story we want it to be!

    You, however, looked beautiful in both pics! (You see, I’m not as cynical as I initially sound!)

  2. I prefer the first pic, although to be fair you look fab in both xxxxx

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